This, that and the other thing. The Princess of darkness edition.

Dr. Death

Thank you all for your positive comments on my butterfly post from Monday. I love and appreciate your accolades.

I’m not kidding…

I really, really need your accolades.

My friend Kelly was asking me a while ago how many butterflies I release each year. I wasn’t sure, but now I’m keeping a spreadsheet because: time and pandemic.

I’ve released 73 in just under a month. A boatload of butters. 

Now, for my Debbie Downer moment.

I had to put on my Jack Kevorkian pants 5 times last week.

I euthanized five butters. Well, technically I think two took their own lives.

They could neither fly nor eat; what’s the point then? 

It happens; disease. Parasites.

BTW; Jack’s pants: So.darn.tight; he was a slim man.

How do you euthanize? Well, there are two methods that I know of. One I can’t fathom.

The method I use is I put them in my fridge for about five minutes to lower the body temperature, then in the freezer, they go.

Don’t ask me how many times someone has opened up the freezer with a butterfly surprise.


I said DON’T ask me. 

I forget they are in there and the next time I, Coach, or a guest goes into the freezer for something: Death.

THEY say that butterflies feel no pain. Hmmm. I don’t know if I believe THEY.

I’ve gotten better at this though. I used to get upset when I had to put one in my beloved appliance, but now it’s a fact of life.

This should probably make my enemies husband nervous.

Who am I kidding? WE know I don’t have enemies.


Let’s get married!

My calendar told me that I was supposed to go wedding dress shopping with Linds and Lolo today.


The nuptials are still planned for the Fall of 2021, but the venue and dress shopping has been postponed for a bit.

The future Mr & Mrs. Cutie Pie.

I think a backyard wedding would suffice. Can you picture the butterfly release?

That is if they’re not all in the freezer.



I really need to Marie Kondo my closet again; I’ve been putting it off.

BUT, I did start to Marie Kondo my boxes and boxes and boxes of old photos. I’ve arranged to have a good lot of them scanned and saved digitally. This is a big undertaking.


When you are the ONE who continues to live (out of parents, grandparents and siblings) you end up with ALL the photos. Which, I’m thankful for, but I need them in some sort of order for my kids so they won’t be overwhelmed by them like I am.


That’s all the death, despair and disappointments I have to share today.

If I say anymore we won’t have anything dreadful to talk about on Friday.

I’m kidding! Happy Humpday!




Smelling this and that

I’m a self-proclaimed reed diffuser junkie. And I’ve only found a handful of brands that are actually worth the $$ to use. One of my favorite brands is Pier One. I honestly think the store charges too much for most everything, but their reed diffusers actually HAVE scent and are long-lasting. This ( White pumpkinis a great scent for this time of year; it’s a nice sweet & subtle smell.

My newest (other)favorite smelly thing is Lume all-natural deodorant. 
How do I put this delicately…..Ummmmm…..I sweat like a man. 
A cute little construction type-working man, but a man just the same. 
I’m sure it’s because I’m super healthy and the bad stuff just needs to be expelled from my body. Yeah, let’s go with that. 

They have perhaps the best commercial-it’s quite entertaining. 

The past few years I’ve been more aware of the chemicals that I don’t really want to put on/in my body. And let’s just think about all the glands in our pits that are so close in relation to the larger glands on our chest. 

This is an all-natural deodorant that actually works. I love it so much. I still sweat, but I never stink and really, that’s the most important thing. I have the lavender and sage flavor and it smells really nice. Like me. 

Anything you’ve fallen in love with lately, I mean, aside from me? 

This, that and the other thing

I’m never quite sure if my blog post title should all be capitalized or just the first word? This is a grammar quandary for me.

1) The Coach and I had a nice, quiet July 4th. We had lunch at the boat marina, checked out some really BIG boats and spotted the resident Bald Eagle. Then we spent the evening listening to the neighborhood send 12 million bottle rockets into the sky. But hey, they started 4 days prior, so why slow down now? Do you know how terrifying fireworks are to pets? Very. Also, I learned they’re also frightening for butterflies…..I know. I just can’t stop it with the butterflies.

2) Our girls went on their big trip to Seattle and Portland; this was a gift from us for Christmas, but they just found the time to go.
While they were gone, we took care of our granddog Max. Max hasn’t heard of personal space.
The girls are home now and they loved their trip. They were more impressed with Seattle over Portland; said Seattle just have a really good vibe. I think I know where I need to go next….I love a place with a good vibe.

3) We had all the trees on our property trimmed this past week; hurricane prep. We have about 49 palm trees and 8-9 oak trees. Some of our oak trees have NEVER been trimmed or thinned out.
This is our favorite tree and now that it’s thinned out, I have MORE room for orchids in there. 🙂

It looked as though hurricane Irma made a reappearance until all was cleaned up.

Happy hump day!

This, That and The Other Thing

1) This

A few days after Thanksgiving I finally picked up the wishbone from the countertop and handed one side to the Coach.
Me: Lets do this.
Him: ohhhh, I don’t like this because it means one of us will lose.
Me: It’s ok, one of us will be a winner too.

We pulled it apart and we both lost.
Go figure.
We’re both losers. 🙂


2) That
I’m finally back in Monarch butterfly business.
Hurricane Erma did a number on my garden and the butterflies that inhabited our yard.

Slowly but surely, my numbers are growing and some mornings I feel like Snow white…..monarchs flying all around me in the garden. It’s a beautiful thing.


3) The Other Thing

Do you ever have a moment where you forget to spell the simplest of words? I’ve written Believe many many times…..but after a full day of Christmas decorating, it was beyond my comprehension.

I had a big giggle at my mistake and called it quits for that day.

I hope you are getting though this holiday season with all your wits about you….but if you’re like me, you’re completely out of wits and you get by on charm. 🙂

This, That and The Other Thing~ The lightning edition.

Lately if I’m able to get a blog post together, they seem to be best in small random doses.

Linds traveled with some friends recently. Since she and Lolo live together and Lolo works 12 hour shifts, Lo really depends on Lindsay to help her with Max. (Lolo’s baby) Well, who gets to fill in when Linds is unavailable?
G’ma and G’pa. Or in this case, just G’ma since G’pa was off coaching softball. Max had 8 days at our house; Callie and Cocoa seemed to enjoy the change of pace.

Max loves us all….but he REALLY loves his Mama!
He couldn’t get enough of her when she came to retrieve him.

Speaking of dogs…..we’ve had some atrotious rain storms with a lot of lightning. I caught the dogs enjoying some front door sunshine one day after a big storm had passed.
*sigh, we survived another one*

The other thing:

Speaking of storms.
On Sunday afternoon it was PERFECTLY clear in our front when a bolt of lightning hit a tree.
I actually saw it out of my peripheral. Scared the bejesus out of me. It started a fire in the tree…..I had to call 911. (my first time!) Luckily, since we’ve been having so much rain, it went out fairly fast. A deputy was on our street and came immediately followed by the firemen.

The victim tree is in the middle of this cluster.

All is well, but I was shaken up. It’s about 30-40 feet from our front door and I was thinking of all the times I’m outside piddling around in the gardens….with not a worry in the world.

It reminded me of when we were on vacation about 10 years ago and came home to a hole (the size of a basketball) in our tile roof and our appliances/tv’s were going bonkers. We’d been hit by lightening and luckily our house did not catch on fire.

On Monday a friend was here working on our electronics (lot of issues from the Sunday bolt) when he was walking to his truck something and a bolt of lightening hit just outside of our property.
WHAT? It’s like we have a target on our home or something.

So scary.
It blew out our a/c, security system, gate keypad, water system and some home automation.

We’re slowing getting everything working again and we know how lucky we are; it could always be worse.

Mother Nature is angry about something and I swear it isn’t me!! I’m doing more than my fair share.

Now I’m super paranoid about being outside…..I’m gonna go pasty white and misplace lots of caterpillars.  Woe is me….

This, that and the other thing


Way back in March we hosted a “smoked butt’ fundraiser at our home for a charity that supplies veterans with beach wheel chairs…..getting them back to the beach. Our family will put our ‘butts in a smoker’ if it helps someone.
We raised enough for two chairs and they had the second dedication recently. (We were not available for the first dedication) It was a great day with old friends near and far and new friends from near and far.

This soldier was a very humble man who clearly didn’t want the fan-fare, but did it for the rest of us. He’s not been to the beach in almost 20 years and is so looking forward to this new freedom; it’s much deserved. The Coach is here thanking him for his service and getting to know him a bit better.


These two. Callie and Cocoa. If you remember Callie was a ‘cow dog’ who lived her first 8.5 years herding cows and living in a dog pen outside with other dogs and horses. She’s settled in nicely here….so much so, that she sometimes forgets that she’s not the ONLY dog. Kind of a bully to Cocoa for the most part, but here they let their issues go and took a nap. We have a large home, but they love those few inches between the couch and coffee table.

The Other Thing

For Christmas this year the Coach gave me perhaps the best present ever….aside from his undying devotion and the girlies. He gifted me with flower delivery every two weeks for a year direct from the farm. No wasted vases, no florist middle men.
It’s been so much fun to see what shows up; I’ve loved them all. Sometimes I remember to take pictures. Sometimes I don’t. I’m a heathen.

Have a bee-u-tiful weekend and take a moment to smell the flowers. Well, not mine.
Boundaries people. Boundaries.


This, that and the other thing

I had my annual eye appointment this week. Do you recall that I had my laser vision surgery back in 2015? It was almost two years ago and I’m proud to say that my vision is just awesome. I know it’s not polite to boast, but I am. My right eye (distance) is 20/25 and my left eye (near) is 20/20.
I almost feel like an overachiever.
Ok, If I’m being honest, I actually DO feel like an overachiever.
I do have really dry eyes though and that was the case before the surgery. The Dr. said I can have tubes put in my ducts to help combat that.
When she suggested this, I immediately thought about pool noodles.
No. Thanks.
I’ll just keep the 27 bottles of eye drops I have scattered about in my house/car/purse.
Back in April my girlfriend and I went out for lunch and a margarita to celebrate my Mom’s birthday. What? It’s a thing.
We both had cucumber Margaritas and we declared that they were the best thing ever.
A few weeks later she and I were texting about getting together because the Coach was out of town and we love any excuse to catch up. So, I was thinking it would be great if I tried to make cuke margs for us. Well, I’d just call it serendipity because I didn’t even need to go to the store; I had 3 large cukes in my garden, a full bottle of good tequila, mint and limes. DESTINY.
So, I marinated the mint and cuke in tequila and voila; we had cuke margs and they.were.amazing.
If you care for the recipe, it’s this article here.
The other thing
I almost broke the bank and purchased myself a macro/wide lens for my cellphone.

Actually, it’s gone up $2 since I purchased mine. Supply and demand is alive and well.

I’m amazed at how great the photos/videos are. Who doesn’t want to record caterpillars eating or frolicking on a milkweed flower? Sadly, I can’t figure out how to properly share the videos on blogger. (arrggghhhh)
Happy Humpday!